study after study shows that one of the keys to longevity and good health is to develop a habit of gratitude and let go of past hurts.Sappy as heck, and therefore uncool, but it's got some interesting ideas on how to stop being motivated by pain. I'm particularly fond of step #9: Tell The Story From The Other Person's Perspective. Not bad, as far as unsolicited free advice goes.
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Forgiveness
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Thank you for posting. ;)
I just attended an awesome lecture on this very subject. It seems that the process of trying to repress unresolved emotions is akin to the psych experiment in which the subject is told NOT to think of white bears. The only way to NOT think of white bears, is, paradoxically, to compare everything that you're thinking about to white bears. In other words, you become hypervigilant to experiences that have some perceptual resemblance to those you're trying to avoid and inadvertently seek them out. You experience them all the more.
Anyway, the speaker suggested exactly what you describe... the best way to resolve those feelings is actually to turn it from raw perceptual experience into an abstracted, symbolic representation of that event- in other words, a story.
Cool. Glad somebody liked it. I was somewhat self-conscious linking to it from here, since the general theme of this place is pretty much "grr! yarrgh!" and not that of reconciliation and forgiveness.
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